Feeling
For me, people are very sensitive beings.
Of course, I start from my own feelings. What I have noticed in myself, I transfer to others. But that alone is not what I want to get at. Almost every human being has made intensive experiences in his life. Some perceive an event as threatening, which others perceive as interesting. Some feel disgusted by something, and others find the same event exciting, or thrilling. Sensations are different, and determine our perception of reality. What I want to say is that each person is different, and perceives his environment differently. In addition, perceptions of the same situation can have different intensities. What is warm for one, is hot for the other. So it goes in life with situations that are unpleasant for one and for another person is a trigger that can even re-traumatize.
Reason
Within us there is a constant battle between emotion and reason. We believe we have done something consciously, or have willingly decided to do something in particular, but in reality, guided by our feelings, we have come to our decisions. Nevertheless, at any moment reason can gain the upper hand again, and check decisions that have been made.
The reasonable behavior is a result of experience, learned and socially adapted behavior. Even though I have just separated the domains, collectively they are all socially learned behavior. Reason is a balancing of experience – learned – and feelings.
Therefore, it makes no sense to judge a person based on their appearance.
Real dating must necessarily compare personalities.
Although the whole world seems to have agreed that getting to know each other works best with photos, I would like to doubt the principle. Because what happens after you look at the picture or pictures? One writes. You try to find out if the person opposite matches you, if my idea of the person who belongs to the photo matches the real person. This is problematic. Because first of all our brain fills the information gaps with positive content from our imagination. Strangely enough, this does not happen when looking at the photos themselves. What is very strange from my point of view (as a programmer). Because photos, and also videos, are often edited, or even completely artificially generated. So what’s the point of looking at a photo, and then asking to find out if the partner corresponds to it. Can it not even be that a filtered Photoshop glossy image leads to a distorted expectation? And thus already influences the questions we ask our counterpart? Are photos really the best way to connect two people who are looking for each other? I see better possibilities.
How dating in KREUZBERG works
When you tap on the setting in your app, you can set your desired partner. You set an age range, body characteristics and other values that are important to you.
The A.I. system relates the wishes of other users to yours, and the algorithm determines the percentage match. So if you have a 20% match, it probably won’t be so harmonious between you. But if it is a 85% match, then that is already an interesting partner for a conversation. It is important that you have not searched. No hours of wiping through photos. The A.I. finds your “match”. You can define from which value your Emobot ( K.I.Chatbot ) should notify you. If you just want to talk, a low value is enough (or even beneficial if you want to get to know new points of view). If you are interested in a serious friendship / relationship, then you should set a high value.
The problem of quantity
One problem with dating is that there is a very high demand. If you as a single person are responsible for finding the right one, you can only do it with your fingers and your eyes. That is very slow when it comes to choosing the right one out of three hundred and eighty four thousand six hundred and twelve users.
Seriously, that’s not possible. And that was just a small number. In reality, the numbers are much larger.
So filtering certain people out of a crowd of hundreds of thousands based on their profile picture is bordering on overestimation.
It is much better to link character traits and / or desires with each other.
Why don’t the other apps do that?
Because they make excellent money from the fact that users keep coming back to try again. According to the “Must work sometime” principle.
I am writing KREUZBERG also for myself
I know my personality and I am sure that my matching counterpart is very rare. KREUZBERG is therefore a tool that helps me & you to find the right person among those who are also looking for.
